Dating suicide: What not to do in the first month
There’s nothing more exciting that meeting someone new that you really hit it off with. But here are a few dating no-no’s that you should keep in the back of your mind if you want to make it to month-two.
Don’t put your friends second
This is the absolute number 1, cardinal sin of single – and, we get it, it’s an easy one to make. I know you might be all loved up now, but remember who was there for you when shit hit the fan in your last relationship – and who will be there if things go bad again. Not only that, but it’s important to have your own life – so don’t throw it away!
Don’t worry about putting a label on it
I’m not suggesting you let a fuck boy string you along for the best part of a year, but in the first month of dating someone new you’re just getting to know each other. There’s absolutely no need to surge ahead and worry too much about ‘where the relationship is going’ or making it ‘official’ – just ride the wave and see how it goes, after all, this is meant to be the exciting bit!
Don’t keep bringing up your ex
Ex chat is a big red flag when you’re dating anyone new. Of course, it’s normal that these things might crop up, but comparing your new love interest to an old one – even in a positive way – pretty much suggests that you’re not completely over them. As Timon said; you’ve got to leave the past behind you.
Don’t send ‘desperate’ texts
Whatever you do, please don’t send a text saying “are you ignoring me?” They might be at the gym, busy in work or – i don’t know – having a life? But let’s be honest here, if you’re anything like me your phone will be in your hand constantly, so if you think someone is ignoring you then they probably are – all you’ve done is pointed it out and made the whole situation 10x more awkward.
Don’t be creepy
You know and I know that you’ve had a little stalk of their social media – that’s fine, you need to find out they’re not mental! But there’s a line when it comes to stalking; and if you’ve found yourself on their ex’s brother’s faceook page in the first month, then you’ve crossed it. Don’t forget, an accidental slip of the thumb can ruin your social life – stalk sensibly.
Don’t drop the L-bomb
It’s easy to get wrapped up in a new infatuation… but telling someone you love them in less than a month is ridiculous. Sorry to be the one to break this, but it’s not romantic, it’s too soon – see how you feel in six weeks.